Come the new year, millions of people resolve to eat healthier, save money, learn a new skill, or spend more time with their family.
As you reflected on 2020, you may have decided to re-evaluate some of your relationships, namely with your child’s other parent. This is an excellent time to set resolutions to become a more supportive co-parent.
Forgive Your Co-Parent
Even though you and your ex are co-parents, you may still harbor ill feelings about them. If you are still angry with them, it could complicate your children’s ability to have a healthy relationship with them. It also hinders your ability to grow and make progress in your own life. To be the best co-parent to your kids, resolve to forgive them.
Focus on the Positives
Although there is a lot of negativity surrounding divorce, know that you deserve to feel happy and healthy. It can be easy to get caught up in what went wrong but try to redirect that energy into the positives that the divorce has brought on. A positive attitude can, in turn, promote positive interactions between you and your co-parent.
Nurture Your Mental Health
Self-care isn’t just a millennial buzzword. As you focus on having a positive attitude, do more of what lifts your spirits as well. Take part in regular exercise to keep the brain and body healthy, maintain a balanced diet, and improve your sleep schedule. All of these things will uplift your overall health while giving you more energy.
Use the time that you don’t have with your children to do things you enjoy. Go out with your friends and explore new hobbies. By maintaining self-care, being present when you have your kids will be easier.
Learn How to Compromise
When it comes to co-parenting with an ex, expect there to be disputes. As you roll into the new year, instead of immediately shutting down an idea from your co-parent, look for ways to compromise. Negotiating decisions can lead to better outcomes for the both of you and improve your relationship. It’s a great lesson in teamwork and encourages your kids to handle confrontations in the same way.
By committing to these resolutions, you will hopefully notice positive changes throughout 2021, benefitting your entire family for years to come.