When it’s done correctly, mediation can be one of the most effective ways to end a marriage. It can help you and your spouse reduce animosity, keep private details about your personal life confidential, save money, and finalize your divorce quickly and efficiently. It almost sounds too good to be true.
Before diving into the process, you may be wondering if there’s anything you can do to increase your chances of successfully mediating the issues related to your divorce. Our team at Fairwell Family Law Mediation is comprised of the top experts in family law mediation across Minnesota, and we’ve gathered the top tips you should keep in mind when embarking on this journey.
1. Be prepared to compromise.
Don’t come into mediation expecting to win every argument and hoping to “defeat” your ex— that’s what traditional divorces are for. Try to have an open mind during the process. The mediator provides creative solutions that you may not have previously considered, which will probably work out better for everyone. Look past the resentment you may hold for your ex and instead focus on what you want to get out of the mediation process.
2. Do your homework.
It’s critical to prepare yourself so that there are no surprises when you’re meeting with everyone. Our FairWell Guides are there to help you develop a comprehensive plan for your mediation, outlining important goals and negotiation points. However, you should collect essential documents such as financial statements, tax returns, and a list of your expenses. Getting a clear and comprehensive overview of all the items you and your partner own can help speed up the process.
3. Commit to being a good listener.
When spouses enter mediation willing to hear each other’s sides (and refrain from interrupting and attacking the other party), they can better stay on track with settlement discussions. Bonus points for empathizing with your ex as you may find that they become more cooperative when feeling like they’re being heard.
4. Choose your mediator carefully.
Not all divorce lawyers are trained mediators. If you decide to go down this path, it’s of the utmost importance to find a skilled mediator who has a background in alternative dispute resolutions and working experience.
Mediators are often privy to some of the most personally sensitive information about your life. For that reason, trust is a key component of the relationship we have with our clients. Our team is dedicated to serving as your guide through these difficult moments as your supporting legal advisor and tenacious champion, stopping at nothing to help find a fair and just outcome to your family law dispute.
Call our team today at (651) 409-9093 or contact us online to arrange a free consultation.