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Principles of Effective Mediation

The Principles to Successful Resolutions

You might be interested in mediation as a means of resolving your divorce-related issues, but the concept of mediation might be foreign to you. You might have an idea of how mediation works, but more information might help. To give you a better picture of how mediation works, we’ve outlined several principles put forth by the Family Mediators Association that help make mediation more effective.

Confidential Process

Perhaps a quality of mediation that will put those who are concerned about privacy at ease, mediation is based on confidentiality. What you and your spouse say to each other and to the mediator does not go on any public record; you have the ability to speak your mind without fear of wondering what others will think of what you said. In addition, your mediator will not share what you have worked through with anyone (barring legal exceptions).

Voluntary Nature

Part of what makes mediation so successful is that both parties enter into mediation voluntarily. No one forces a couple to try mediation for their divorce. Because both parties agree to attend mediation to settle their differences, that often assumes that both parties are also willing to work together and come to a solution on divorce issues.

Mediators Without Bias

Your mediator is an independent third party with no connection to you or your spouse other than the fact that you hired them to be your mediator. Because of this, they are completely neutral in working toward a resolution. No good mediator will try and work out a solution in favor of just you or just your spouse; they have no outside interest in seeing either of you walk away from the divorce with more or seeing the other not receive as much. This neutral nature of mediators makes it possible for them to better communicate ideas and collaborate on solutions.

Participants Have the Power

What happens in mediation and what gets worked out is entirely up to you and your spouse. The two of you have the power to control what happens in your mediation sessions; how you choose to use that power and what you ultimately determine in your sessions is up to you. When you are able to come to terms on a settlement, have your attorney write up the agreement to make it official.

Ready to Try Mediation?

These principles ultimately make mediation attractive and an effective option for divorce resolution. If you’re ready to learn more about mediation or to try it for your divorce, begin by getting in touch with our mediators. At FairWell Family Law Mediation, you can say “FairWell” to painful litigation and welcome a truly effective solution created entirely by you.


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